About US Part 1

I decided that I would post a blog about US I know people find it very very crazy but hey it worked for us it can work for others. I will give a prehistory of where I was in my life before I met Tom. It wasn't pretty but God had a plan.

When I graduated high school I was determined to get out of here and focus on my independent life and find who I am. I attended SWCID some people think it wasn't the best choice but personally for me at the time it was for me. I had a lot of people give me their wisdom and love and guidance and I took it to heart but did not follow it. I guess I just wanted to be my own person without the shadow of people wanting me to do right because I knew I was the first to actually do something for myself. Did I make the right choices? No. Did I follow my heart? Yes. Did I get hurt? Many times! Did I meet the right friends? Yes! I wouldn't change them or anything because to this day they are still in my life. No matter where I was or what I was doing, I knew in my heart they were my true friends and I wouldn't have to question it. Flash forward two years later I was barely 21 and yet I didn't have all the answers to my life of what to do. With everyone leaving at SWCID, I didn't know what to do so I decided to move back home. Well the lifestyle I led didn't stop. I got involved with the wrong people and did something regretfully stupid and ended up with a spank in the butt that I cannot ever change. There are days I question myself the what if's and should haves but I cannot go back and change what I did. I can only look forward and do the best that I can now. Most of you know my mother and brother have addictions to alcohol and drugs. I promised myself that I would not fall into that. With the things that happened into my life I of course loved to party back in my days but I looked to alcohol and sex as a fill for the void that I had. Some people know that alcohol and drugs are the most addicting things you can get into. What you don't know is that sex is also addicting when you use it for the wrong reasons. So there I said it, I had a sex addiction I couldn't break. I remember countless times when a little voice has told me that it was wrong and if I didn't change consequences would be there. Did I listen? No. I wish I did because life would be a lot better. But I learned something that so many addicts struggle with I learned that I didn't need sex to fill the void of my emptiness. I learned that to love myself is better than having someone love me. I learned that Love is a choice and not a feeling. I keep thinking why didn't GOD just say so! Well I learned the hard way. I wasn't listening. I was putting up a barrier to block his unconditional love. 2006 was the hardest year of my life. That year after everything that happened and such I did everything I possibly could before my sentence was given in 2007. I am glad I did. Don't get me wrong but 2006 I had a lot of anger towards people who were God's angels and he was sending them to save me but I didn't LISTEN! I got all of my party days out of my system and I told myself that it was the last of the last. I didn't want to be like my mom or brother drinking and doing what they did. At that same time my mom was in trouble and went to jail for a year. The hardest year of my life without my mom, God has his reason, before she left I cried so hard and I told her what I did was stupid but who in the world is going to love me for what I did? Are they ever going to understand it. My mom told me that no matter what to have faith and know that God understands and loves you no matter what if you forgive yourself and he will forgive you. I never would have believed her. Really my mom is not good at the relationship part but just holding on to her words of FAITH and LOVE made me and held me together for the year that I thought I couldn't without her. She was my backbone to Believing in myself again. She loved me no matter what. I think I asked God a few times if this is his reason she is my mother to teach me the reality of things. I thank him for that. Like I said he works in mysterious ways and has a plan for everything.

Just as my mom left I decided to take a risk and see what was out there. (blushes) I decided to post an ad on DSC (deaf singles connection). I always told myself that Deaf guys were the last on my list of everything but I was curious. Little did I know I wasn't suppose to have an ad because of rules so that night on March 16th 2007 I decided to see who emailed me. I get a email from Shadow80, I was like hmmmm, I wonder why he in the shadows? Maybe he doesn't sound like who he is.. So since I didn't pay for emailing I took advantage to email back since I was 1. closing my account and 2. it was free because he emailed me.
I read his email as something like this: Hi just wanted to say Wow you look amazingly hot. No offense but nice assets. Boy was I raging with anger of this guy is a jerk! So I emailed him and said gee thanks I guess that the only thing you were looking at. At the bottom I basically said can't have the profile so here my email Addy. When I hit the send button I felt stupid.

He responded back by saying No, it was the last thing what I was wanting to say was your profile of how your out look on life was amazing not many people have that. So we got to talking and all. I was taking a risk but something about him just spoke of honesty that I will never forget. He told me where he was from what he did etc and the more we talked the more I couldn't wait to hear how his day went or mine. The one thing I did test on him was telling him my background, I expected the reaction of many others I have said to friends, family or what not. His reaction was everyone has a past, my parents taught me to focus on the present not the past. I was like wait a minute "your telling me that you understand?" And so that was the beginning of the great dance between me and my future husband.